EB: Giving ’em the business!

Brain dumps from the original Bonehead.

By Request: Playing A Bad Hand.

A while back I was talking with a close friend about playing Spades.  Spades is a card game involving four players divided into two teams of two.  He and I played as partners for years and we took our show on the road – for a good while not only did we play within our circle of friends but we traveled all over our metro area looking for new opponents.

Mind you, we're not talking about chess or Stratego or even checkers for that matter, we're talking about a game where cards are shuffled and dealt and therefore the luck element cannot be ignored.  Since he and I were somehow born gifted with reliably bad luck at card games, we often played the role of that one-legged man in the ass kicking contest… it wasn't easy but we still kicked alot of ass! 

Ok – here he comes with this D.H. Lawrence thing again…

I don't know where I first heard the expression adversity builds character but whoever said that was a damn genius.  I know that problems are problems are problems, and that one man's famine could be another man's feast, but have you ever met someone that never had to wonder where they would live or how they would feed their family?  Someone that never had to make decisions that would ultimately determine survival?  I have.  I've met this person as he bore different faces, time and time again.  He can be just as good-hearted of a person as the one standing to his left but in some deep, dark corner of his spirit he knows that his mettle has not yet been tested. 

When you draw the connections inside your head and see each thing as being more than a thing but as an interconnected cog in a microcosm of all things, your view of the events unfolding around you changes.  You become less likely to throw your hands up and say "Oh lordy why me???" and instead you tuck your chin down and apply the talents and gifts that you have.  You take the hand you're dealt and you play it; you take that one lonely trump card and you play it; you count and you scheme and you pimp a 10-of-hearts all the way around the table if you have to because it's all you've got.  You just find a way.

Damn, I miss that game.


April 26, 2006 - Posted by | Personal Revelations


  1. hey in life were all thrown a few curve balls, and believe alot of those time is the wrong time lol..However life still goes on.The kids still need to get breakfast everymorning,headout to school, your job still need to get done, your love one is still going to need the bills payed and thier sexually healing etc..
    There are two ways of dealing with this either you bitch and hope some strange power or being helps you, or you man up and look for all the positive thing and life tightin ur weight belt put your gloves and war paint,Because no one ever said life was going to be easy. I know when my time is up at least I can say I went out fighting and prepared

    Comment by Darcey Omeus aka. Golden Rod | April 26, 2006 | Reply

  2. Everyone is dealt a bad hand at one time or another….some people feel that their entire life is a bad hand. But really, it’s all relative.

    When I start to feel that life kinda sucks, I try to look at all the positive things that I have going for me…(which is really tough sometimes) and that usually get me through. Sometimes, things are actually better than you realize, you just have to patient and keep a positive mind.

    Sometimes, that 10 of hearts actually ‘walks’ (spades terminology) πŸ™‚

    Miss our spades games 😦 Miss ya 2 😦

    Comment by Poca | April 27, 2006 | Reply

  3. Good points. It’s feasible that a positive mind is the first and most critical building block for success, but that thread would lead us to the spirit world and even I might need my tap shoes for that one.


    Comment by barber | April 28, 2006 | Reply

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